I remember when the mother of my ex told me that cheating is not a reason to leave. She told me that all you have to do is wait for your opportunity to cheat back. 🤔

Sidebar: I did not even think the man was cheating. 🫤

Anyways, I told her that I was shocked that someone her age would give that type of advice. The lady looked me straight in the eyes and said, old women were once young women.

Translation: Age does not always bring about wisdom.

Many of you are stuck in unhealthy situations whether it be work, relationships, or environments because you DO NOT seek wise counsel! Just because they’re an elder or related to you, it does not mean that you should take advice from them.

Pray for God to connect you with people that have been where you are going. Ask Him to send you counselors after His own heart. If you ask, He will do it!

#TrustGod #trusttheprocess #LeanNotToYourOwnUnderstanding #chrysalisconversations #chrysalisjournal

Happy Sunday and Happy Heavenly Birthday to my incredible Grandma, Henrietta Ford!

My grandma was a beacon of wisdom, whose insights came not from formal education, but from her life experiences. Her words, simple yet profound, drew us in and made us think. Grandma had a gift for listening, and through her stories, she taught invaluable lessons on kindness, perseverance, and faith. Her wisdom inspired us to face struggles with grace and resilience, shaping the essence of who we are today.

In celebration of my grandma’s special day, I’m excited to release my first self-help tool, The Chrysalis Journal!!! This is not just another journal, it’s your first step for transformation. The Chrysalis Journal was designed to challenge you to confront your deepest thoughts and feelings. With carefully crafted prompts, inspirational quotes, and spaces for unfiltered expression, this journal dares you to break free and reclaim your life through self-discovery. I challenge you to embrace your unique journey and unleash the fierce, unapologetic version of yourself waiting to emerge.

Click the link below to place your order today, and consider getting a copy for a friend. Imagine the joy of experiencing this offering together, transforming it into a thoughtful gift that fosters connection. Seize this opportunity to treat yourself and brighten someone else’s day.

What are some of the challenges that you’ve faced in various aspects of your life, whether personal or professional? How did you handle those challenges in a way that fostered growth and resilience?

Twelve years ago, a new chapter began when I moved to Orlando, Florida🧡💚. This move coincided with the start of Live Laugh Love Without Limits. It was driven by the inspiring mission, “Aspire to Inspire Through Words”. As I navigated my own transformative journey, I hoped to positively influence others along the way.

Completion…

Fast forward to April, 2024, we celebrated the 12th anniversary of Live Laugh Love Without Limits. For those who don’t know, the number 12 symbolizes authority and spiritual completeness. As such, it feels like the perfect time to progress to the next stage. I want to express my gratitude for your support over the years, and as we look towards what’s next…

New Beginnings…

Let me introduce Chrysalis Conversations. Chrysalis Conversations aims to offer a more intimate and personalized coaching experience. Just as the chrysalis stage is crucial in a butterfly’s transformation, Chrysalis Conversations are crafted to promote introspection and self-reflection. The tools and strategies we develop during our time together will help you in evolving into your best self. Click the link below to explore the Chrysalis Conversations platform.

What is going to happen to the blog?

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Nowadays, you see post after post about healing and trusting the process but you rarely see a post about what the process looks like.

See the thing is when you truly want to unpack your baggage and address the root cause(s) of your challenges, you must dig through layers of memories and raw emotions.

For example, you may think that a break up in 1992 caused your trust issues but in actuality, your fear of abandonment started at age 6 when your mother or father walked out of your life.

Think of life as a series of short stories that make up one book. Within the chapters of your book (life), there are pages that you have forgotten about or completely rewritten as a defense mechanism.

So, when you are on your healing journey, these omitted and/or revised pages come back and shake you to your core.

There will be days filled with tears and others filled with laughter. But there will also be utter disgust on occasion and a general disdain for folks that are not healed or working on their own journey.

This is the real awakening, realizing that you are more complex than you thought and that your inner child still cries out at times.

So I said all of that to say this, BE GENTLE WITH YOURSELF. You are in a space and place that you have never experienced before and you must treat yourself with love and kindness. Your future generations are depending on your healing.

Chorus for Today: I am not the things my family did. I am not the voices in my head. I am not the pieces of the brokenness inside. I am light. I am light. I am light, I am light.

I recently had an epiphany…many years ago, I was a side chick.  Now, I know the realization sounds a little shocking.  You may be asking questions like; how could you not know that you were a side chick?  Well, the answer is that I did not care enough at the time to think about it.

How does that happen???  Kinda like this…I was focused.  Focused on what I wanted. I was the boss of me.  He was a welcomed distraction but not enough of a distraction for me to realize all the moments he was an afterthought or a fill-in-the blank.  Now I am not giving him a pass and I do not promote cheating.  What I am saying is that I totally missed the process of changing from the object of his affection to the second place chick.

The story went something like this…we met under somewhat strange circumstances and we became almost inseparable.  In the beginning we talked all day, everyday, even while we were at work(shout out to Bluetooth technology) and then we talked until we went to sleep at night.  We also saw each other several times a week, at different time intervals.

At some point, I guess he grew tired of my unavailability/unwillingness to be who he needed and began to fill-in-the blank.  To be honest, I am certain that she was in the picture all along and I was quite possibly the fill-in-the blank BUT this is a tale about balance, not resolving the question of why he had the desire for two women.

So, back to my point…One night while we were together, he excused himself to answer a call.  He did not walk away or try to hide the fact that a female was calling.  When he hung up, I told him that was disrespectful or something to that effect.  He clearly responded that “if I was on my job, he would not be answering the phone.”

After this incident, I began to pull away from him and seek I wanted in my life(remember I am the boss of me).  I remember him questioning me about the distance and of course my answer was that I was busy.  Eventually, I told him that I started a new relationship and he confessed that he realized that he was in love with me.  The problem was that we had both run out of time.  There was nothing that he could say to repair our situationship, I did not trust him anymore. The good news is that we both went on to live our happily ever after eventually.

You see in life we put so many things before ourselves and our relationships all under the goal of looking out for ourselves( see how that does not add up).  Often times we think that we can push things to the side while we work our plan but we cannot control time nor add time when it is lost.  In order to achieve what we really want and need in life, we must find balance.  We have to be wives to OUR husbands, mothers to our children, girlfriends to OUR boyfriends, a friend to our friends and fulfill our positions at work,  all at the same time. All these roles require our attention and a certain level of devotion.  I believe that this is achieved when we prioritize our roles.  Ask yourself what is really important and adjust accordingly.