As we develop in our mother’s womb, our journeys have already begun…

Life is a series of short stories with a common end.  Throughout life we travel down many different roads and sometimes lose direction but every road and wrong turn brings us back to our center.  There are times when we must toss out the road maps, close our eyes and follow our destined paths.  This may seem like a crazy thing to do but disorder can be an organizer(think about it).

As I embark on a new journey in my life, I would like to take you along with me.  Today, I gave “it” all up. “It” represents everything that is hindering you from walking in your purpose.  Friday, May 4, 2012 represents trash pick up day.  I pulled the dumpster from behind the house and took the garbage to the curb.  There it will stay and I won’t ever pick it up again.  Many people walk around dumping their trash in other people’s dumpsters, leaving that person with trash they don’t have room to store.  So, today I left problems, sorrow, heartache, bitterness, dislike and all things of the sort on the curb.  They were all things dropped off in my dumpster by others.  They represent burdens that I don’t have room to store.

“The best thing about life is, it goes on”….Each day will present new challenges and maybe even obstacles BUT if you survive that day, it never has to be relived again.

The beautiful thing about life is, we have choices.  Although there are many things that we can’t control, our reactions dictate our satisfaction.  You must become a lover of life.  Whatever amount of energy you spend contemplating the decisions you make, be sure to use twice as much energy enjoying YOUR life.  You must appreciate the simplicity of life.  The air we breathe is not guaranteed, it’s a privilege.  Someone’s dying prayer was to just be able to smell the fresh air one more time.  Take it all in.

YOUR life is YOURS to live.

Envy, Jealousy, Hating…what ever name you would like to call it, it chokes the life out of YOU.

Oxford dictionary defines envy as: “a feeling of discontented or resentful longing aroused by someone else’s possessions, qualities, or luck”. Jealous: “feeling or showing an envious resentment of someone or their achievements, possessions, or perceived advantages” Hate: “denoting hostile actions motivated by intense dislike or prejudice“.

It is my belief that God does not make ANY mistakes.  He created us to be Individuals, therefore, inherently different from one another.  Independent in thought, speech, actions, and appearance.  Consequently, our lives will be different.  We may work at the same place but possess a different skill set.  We could live in the same neighborhood but our houses look and run completely different.  The variations between person to person can be infinite BUT the foundation is the same and as my Pastor would say: “How can dirt hate on dirt”.  Genesis 2:7 says, “And the Lord God formed man of the dust of the ground, and breathed into his nostrils the breath of life.”

The bottom line is when people are unhappy with themselves, they have no energy to appreciate that someone around them is happy.  It is impossible for you to love your neighbor when you don’t love yourself.  The good news is….you can change!!!  Begin to appreciate all that is you, love you enough to identify you have some issues that need to be addressed.  Locate the event/place/person where you originally lost yourself and in the words of Shirley Murdock: “love you better than that and take your life back”

Many women compare their mates to Romeo, the character in Shakespere’s “Romeo and Juliet”.  Some women think they can find the perfect man.  After  reading “Romeo and Juliet”, some women thought Romeo represented this perfect man.  These creative thinkers compared their mates to Romeo and if their mates did not qualify by the standards set forth by Romeo, he was not considered a good mate.  In reality, Romeo was just a good mate for Juliet.

The character Romeo was an example of a man during Elizabethan Times, he is not supposed to be a model for ALL men.  Women have often made the statement, “He was not my Romeo”.  By saying this, those women may have given up on a good man just because he did not behave in the same manner as Romeo.  Things were very different in Romeo’s time and all women DO NOT behave the same way Juliet did.  While these women are comparing their mates to Romeo, he could justifiably say, “she is not my Juliet’.

Every relationship will not be a “match made in heaven”.  The end goal should be to find the  “perfect complement to your imperfections” and this person most likely will not be like Romeo.  Everyone is different and even though Romeo was very charming, he was only meant to be with Juliet.  Be the partner your mate needs you to be, STAND by YOUR man.