While ironing my clothes, there was gospel music playing in the background. One song in particular came on and I began to sing along, thinking about how much preparation we make for the next day. We rarely stop and think that maybe there is no tomorrow for us.

One thing that I did faithfully for many years of my life was plan ahead.  I planned my whole life out before I completed elementary school.  So, naturally life has changed my outlook on planning but tonight, I was forced to reexamine my thoughts regarding planning.  As I listened to different stories today I heard a recurring theme, stories of plans but all the plans were contingent upon a tomorrow.

When we consider ourselves “healthy” (physically, mentally, financially), we have a tendency to arrange our lives so that we cut a lot of little things out because we think it will cause us to lose focus or hinder our progress.  It is easy to put things off for another day because you can justify your absence, your lack of compassion, or lack of interest due to your journey to the next level.  What we fail to realize is that time is something that we cannot get back.  We can develop the most well thought out plan and it will not mean a thing if we do not see tomorrow.

Life is full of the unknown but there are some things that we do know.  We know when we love someone, we know when someone has hurt us, we know when we want to see a change take place in our lives, we know when we miss someone, we know when we need to change course, and there are so many other things that we know so, LIVE LOVE LAUGH WITHOUT LIMITS.

1 John 2:19~They went out from us, but they were not of us; for if they had been of us, they would no doubt have continued with us: but they went out, that they might be made manifest that they were not all of us.

As we travel through life, we meet so many different people along the way.  The beautiful thing about this process is that we have the opportunity to interact and learn from each other.  Where we interrupt this process is by assigning temporary people, permanent positions.

A temporary person is meant to teach you a particular lesson, show you a different perspective, or maybe just share some of their sunshine along the way.  Often times instead of accepting the temporary nature of these relationships, we prolong the completion of their purpose by turning them into a permanent fixture in our lives.

It is ok to let go! It is ok to let go!  It is ok to let go! Today, thank God for those who left.

Chorus for today: “Letting go, letting go ain’t easy. Oh, it’s just exceedingly hurtful. ‘Cause somebody you used to know, is flinging your world around. And they watch, as you’re falling down, down, down, falling down, baby.”~MC

When you think of your greatest influence, who/what do you rank at the top?

I hear these questions frequently, when are you getting married; why do you only have one child; or why do you want more children?  Then there are the follow-up questions, are you gay; are you able to have more children; and do you know you’re getting too old to have children?

My questions to them are, why do I have to be married by a certain age; why must I have multiple children; or why can’t I have multiple children?

People are so caught up in what society deems “normal” or “acceptable”, that they fail to realize they are not thinking for themselves.  Society has become their god and whatever appeals to society, they accept it and judge others by the standard. We have lost individuality…what is the real reason the divorce rate is so high and why is it that single parenting is now chosen by men and women? Why do we praise other human beings so much?

I would like your feedback, what are your thoughts on these questions?

Time passes whether we want it to or not, this is why it is important to “Stop and Smell the Roses”….

When you were a kid, you may have always thought tomorrow was a guarantee.  As you grew older, hopefully you noticed that each new day is indeed a gift.

Everyone should make it a priority to enjoy their life to the fullest.  This doesn’t mean do any and everything you think you are “grown” enough to do.  It simply means appreciate every aspect of YOUR life.  You have been given everything necessary to live a happy, fulfilled life.  It is up to each individual to live their best life.  Just because you can’t afford a trip to Jamaica, doesn’t mean you can’t take a vacation.  Even if you can’t afford a five-star restaurant, you can still go out for dinner.  The happiest people plainly love the life they live.  They are too busy living to dwell on what they don’t have.

Never take a moment for granted, LIVE LOVE LAUGH WITHOUT LIMITS…

My Chorus for Today: “Back when I had a little, I thought that I needed a lot.  A little was over rated, but a lot was a little too complicated.  You see zero didn’t satisfy me, a million didn’t make me happy.  That’s when I learned a lesson, that it’s all about your perception.”~India Arie

The choice is yours…

There are some decisions you make that you never take a second look at, then there are those that you ponder over for hours, days, and weeks.  I love the fact that, the choice is mine.  No one can force me to do anything.  The struggle comes from the division within you.  There is the person you are and the person you want to become.  Everyday you must determine who will lead.

No one was born or woke up one day being exactly who they are destined to be.  My advice is:  live your truth everyday.  You won’t always make the right decision, you won’t always say the right words but you will always be genuine.  Your truth is your story line, it is being honest with how you feel , what you think and what you want to accomplish.  I know that the most important thing I have to do is, be myself.  If I conform to the image that the world would like to see then I have not become the person I was destined to be.

There is no definite time in which someone should discover themselves.  It could take some people 40 or 50 years to get to know themselves and find their purpose.  It’s a personal journey and no one can dictate where you are on this journey.

My chorus for today: “I’ve seen it, done it, ran it, run it.  Been to the bottom and I came back from it. That’ll be the pain in the pit of my stomach, don’t regret a thing just keep it 100.  I been the drama and the bad news, I been the struggle and the damn blues.  Shed tears over silliness,  seen love blow up as real as it really gets…Rain starts pouring and it don’t stop.  Let myself drown no I will not, smile on my pretty mug, I get right back on my horse and I giddy up…”~Chrisette Michele